influence-psychology

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Influence Psychology Framework

Apply six decades of persuasion science — Cialdini's research into why people say "yes" — to product, copy, and sales, ethically.

Core Principle

People don't make decisions rationally — they use mental shortcuts (heuristics) that can be triggered to influence behavior. These shortcuts evolved because they're usually reliable, but they can also be exploited. Understanding them lets you design products, messaging, and experiences that align with how people actually decide.

Scoring

Goal: 10/10. When reviewing or creating persuasive elements (features, copy, flows, campaigns), run the Quick Diagnostic, then score against the bands below and apply the ethics gate. Always report the current score and the specific change needed to reach 10/10.

• 9-10 — Multiple principles deliberately layered; every claim truthful; users can reverse the decision; passes the transparency test (still works if the user knows the strategy); safe for vulnerable users.
• 7-8 — Principles deliberately layered and honest, but one gap (e.g. weak reversibility, or a single principle where layering was possible).
• 5-6 — One principle present but generic, or leverage left on the table.
• <=3 — No principle deliberately designed (relying on luck), OR any tactic is deceptive/coercive. Any fabricated proof, fake scarcity, or hidden-cost dark pattern caps the score at 3 regardless of other strengths.

The Seven Principles of Influence

1. Reciprocity

Core concept: People feel obligated to give back to those who have given to them first.

Why it works: Humans are wired to avoid being indebted — the obligation to repay can overpower personal preference, and the return favor often exceeds the original gift.

Key insights:

• The gift must come first (before the request)
• Unexpected, personalized gifts beat expected, generic ones
• Even small gifts create obligation

Product applications:

Copy patterns:

• "Here's a gift for you..." (before asking)
• "As a thank you for signing up..."
• "We noticed you needed help with X, so we..."

See references/reciprocity.md when building free trials, lead magnets, or referral rewards — gift tiers, email templates, day-by-day reciprocity-stacking, and A/B variables.

2. Commitment & Consistency

Core concept: People want to be consistent with their past statements, beliefs, and actions.

Why it works: Inconsistency is psychologically uncomfortable; once we take a stand, personal and interpersonal pressure pushes us to behave consistently with it.

Key insights:

• Small initial commitments lead to larger ones (foot-in-the-door)
• Public > private; written > verbal; active (user-generated) > passive
• Self-perception: we infer our attitudes from our behavior

Product applications:

Copy patterns:

• "What's your biggest challenge with X?" (commitment to a problem)
• "How much would you like to save per month?" (numerical commitment)
• "You said you wanted to achieve X. Let's start with..."

Onboarding sequence: micro-commitment ("What brings you here?") → small action (click, choice) → public/written commitment (goal) → reinforce ("Based on what you told us...").

Ethical boundary: Make every commitment freely chosen and easily reversible — no trick opt-ins or locked-in defaults the user can't undo.

See references/commitment-consistency.md when designing onboarding or goal-setting flows — foot-in-the-door sequences and public-commitment tactics.

3. Social Proof

Core concept: People determine what's correct by finding out what others think is correct.

Why it works: When uncertain, we use others' behavior as a guide — "if everyone's doing it, it must be right."

Key insights:

• Most powerful when observers are uncertain; similar others = stronger proof
• Negative social proof backfires ("9 out of 10 don't...")
• Specific numbers beat vague claims ("2,347 users" > "thousands")

Types of social proof:

Product applications:

Copy patterns:

• "[X number] of [similar people] are already..."
• "[Name/Company] increased [metric] by [%]"
• "Don't take our word for it. Here's what [users] say..."

Ethical boundary: Disclose when proof is curated or cherry-picked (e.g. "selected reviews") rather than presenting it as representative.

See references/social-proof.md when building testimonial sections or trust bars — proof types and implementation patterns.

4. Authority

Core concept: People follow the lead of credible, knowledgeable experts.

Why it works: Obedience to authority is deeply ingrained — following experts is an efficient shortcut when we lack expertise ourselves.

Key insights:

• Titles, credentials, even symbols (lab coats, official-looking design) trigger automatic compliance
• Admitting a weakness paradoxically increases authority (trustworthiness) — lead with it before strengths
• Expertise doesn't transfer across domains, but people assume it does

Sources of authority:

Product applications:

Copy patterns:

• "Trusted by [authority figure/company]"
• "Research shows that [cite source]..."
• "Our team includes [credentials]"

See references/authority.md when writing About pages, bylines, or trust badges — credential framing and thought-leadership strategies.

5. Liking

Core concept: People prefer to say yes to those they like.

Why it works: Each liking factor (similarity, compliments, cooperation) is a separate lever that independently lowers a person's resistance to a request — they stack.

Factors that increase liking:

Product applications:

Copy patterns:

• "We're [similar trait] just like you"
• "We built this because we were frustrated with..."
• Casual, warm language ("Hey", "Awesome!", "We got you")

See references/liking.md when setting brand voice or writing support replies — liking factors and tone guidelines. For ready-to-adapt persuasive copy across all seven principles, see references/copywriting.md.

6. Scarcity

Core concept: People want more of what they can't have or what's running out.

Why it works: Loss aversion is stronger than gain seeking — FOMO triggers urgency, and psychological reactance makes us want what threatens to become unavailable.

Key insights:

• Scarcity of time > scarcity of quantity; newly scarce > always scarce (loss framing)
• Competition increases value — if others want it, I want it
• Exclusive access is more valuable than open access

Types of scarcity:

Product applications:

Copy patterns:

• "Limited to the first [X] customers"
• "Offer expires [specific date]"
• "[X] people are viewing this right now"

Ethical boundary: Ethical scarcity reflects real constraints (true inventory counts, genuine deadlines, legitimate capacity limits). Unethical: invented limits, countdown timers that reset, "Only 2 left!" shown daily, pressuring vulnerable users.

See references/scarcity.md when adding urgency or waitlists — five scarcity types, each with an "ethical when" line and the dark patterns to avoid.

7. Unity

Core concept: People say yes to those they consider part of "us" (shared identity).

Why it works: Tribal identity is fundamental — we make sacrifices for in-group members we wouldn't make for strangers.

Unity vs. Liking: Liking = "this person is like me" (similarity); Unity = "this person is me" (shared identity).

Sources of unity:

Product applications:

Copy patterns:

• "For [identity group]" ("For designers", "For bootstrappers")
• "Join [X] others who believe..."
• "We're building this together"

Ethical boundary: Build the in-group by what it stands for, not by vilifying an out-group — define "us" without manufacturing a "them" to resent.

See references/unity.md when defining a brand tribe or community — identity-marketing and co-creation strategies.

Combining Principles

The most powerful persuasion layers multiple principles:

SaaS landing page: authority ("Built by ex-Stripe engineers") + social proof ("Trusted by 5,000+ companies") + liking (warm copy) + scarcity ("Join the beta—limited spots") + reciprocity ("Start free, no credit card") + unity ("For founders who move fast").

Referral program: reciprocity (reward both parties) + social proof ("X friends already joined") + unity ("Invite your team") + commitment (ask after a good experience).

See references/case-studies.md for full worked teardowns of multi-principle stacks across industries.

The Ethical Line

Persuasion helps people see value they'd appreciate anyway; manipulation tricks people into choices against their interests. The deciding tests are in the Quick Diagnostic below — run every persuasive element through them before shipping.

See references/ethics.md when a tactic feels borderline or you ship to vulnerable users — the persuasion-vs-manipulation decision tree, the regulatory landscape (FTC, GDPR, DSA, dark-patterns law), vulnerable-population safeguards, and audit templates.

Common Mistakes

Quick Diagnostic

Audit any persuasive element:

Further Reading

Based on Robert Cialdini's research and books:

• "Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion" by Robert B. Cialdini (Original + Expanded Edition with Unity principle)
• "Pre-Suasion: A Revolutionary Way to Influence and Persuade" by Robert B. Cialdini (Advanced: creating privileged moments for influence)

About the Author

Robert B. Cialdini, PhD is Regents' Professor Emeritus of Psychology and Marketing at Arizona State University. Influence, the foundational text on persuasion science, has sold over 5 million copies worldwide, and he has consulted for Fortune 500 companies, government agencies, and nonprofits on ethical influence.